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We measure ourselves against an imagined audience rather than against the actual difficulty of the thing we claim to want, which means we optimize for the appearance of trying instead of the experience of trying, and this substitution happens so automatically that we mistake it for genuine effort.
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Sacha Baron Cohen's Ali G — a character built entirely on the exposure of people performing for cameras they suddenly realize are there — works precisely because the mechanism he reveals is so real that public figures still can't help but enact it, even when they know better. The mask is more comfortable than the face.
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What breaks next is the distinction between rehearsal and reality for anyone still operating under the assumption that being seen equals having tried. The next generation, having grown up with perpetual witnessing through social systems, will either develop radical honesty about what they actually want or become entirely unreachable through any form of genuine feedback.